Just Miss!

We always get up early in the mornings, musing over how boring and monotonous life has become, how very utterly predictable we are, and how peaceful life is ... I mean, really. For someone who hates risks and thinks twice before stepping out a comfort zone of sorts, risks are like, offering me a peanut-butter jelly sandwich along with my normal dosa, chutney and hot tea fare that I love on a very ordinary day. Why can't I have my way, or what I want, on a particular day? I don't like it! Blech! Why? Because it forces me to think 'out of the box', and take steps into zones I don't know or comprehend. It's like the masala coke I was forced to have, as part of a dare in college, or the sweet honey chaat which I absolutely, totally detest! :-P

Well, just this morning, I woke up grinning, thinking of last night and providence's crazy games. I've been a bit complacent about my weight and can see it piling on again, surely but steadily.(When it should've been the other way 'round. Sigh ...) Anyway, so coming to the adventure I had this morning.

I was talking to a friend and driving (using a handsfree headset, thank you), and all of a sudden, like, a C-grade Hindi movie, I literally felt like my steering wheel had been tugged right out of my hands (a la Bipasha Basu from 'Raaz'- ok, corny, chuck it), and the car just went into a spin of sorts ... Before I knew what was happening, all I could think of, was, "Ok, I'm skidding, and the steering's out of my hands and I have to stop it". My second thought was, "Shit, I'm going to hit someone and someone's going to get hurt!". Strangely, I never once thought I'd get hurt! My third thought as the car skidded completely out of control, and literally spin in side oblongs was, "I'm going to hit the apartment wall, and the car's going to get damaged". And oh! Did I mention I did a two tyre wheelie? Well I did ... A few seconds if not more. That's when I got a grip on the steering and veered towards the footpath which I could then see to my left (when the spinning world decided to slow down). Then a voice in my head, "When in a skid, hit the hand brakes", and that's exactly what I did, and to my relief, the car stopped. Perfectly aligned to the footpath and an inch away from it. I was blank. People came running and all I could think of was that my car had'nt been serviced properly and that there was an inherent problem with my brakes or my front right tyre.

Then I looked up just as a man came running to me, pulled my door open and asked me to step out. His next question had me stumped. "Which direction did you come from, Madam?". I did'nt know! I was blank ... It was a miracle that there was no traffic in front of, or behind me ... All I did was point in front of me and say, "There!". That was when I went "Whooooa" and realised I'd done a Jason Statham and a 360 degree spin on the road!

Before I could respond to anything or anyone else, a middle-aged dude in jogging tracks and a tee pulled me out of the car, made sit on the foot-path and pushed my head down between my knees and in a stern voice literally commanded me to "Stay down". I almost responded with a "Woof" then thought better of it. :P

Funny thing was, I only thought of my "valuables" (I'm sure we Indians coined this word), and feebly mentioned this when my car keys were pressed onto my palm and I was again asked to "Stay down". What, was this war? Bizarre thoughts ran through my head like a bullet, like way too many thoughts, ideas, concepts, theories all at once and I couldn't process even one, completely. Weird!

When I sat there, thinking of sinister ways of suing the Maruti Service centre for their carelessness in servicing my car, I heard two very loud "Thuds!", loud screeching of a heavy vehicle and lifted my head long enough to see two bikes skid across the road, throwing both riders off like two rebellious, belligerent horses, and a bus screeching away from them and scraping the side of the circle on the right side of the road. And of course, the poor first biker sat in the middle of the road, legs wide apart in front of him, looking dazed and lost. I'm sure I could've seen the tiny canaries flying around his head had I squinted hard enough. Funny it sounds but funny it was not, rest assured.

The othher biker wasn't so lucky and landed up with multiple injuries to his arm and leg when the bike fell and dragged him with it.

I can go the cliched way and say that the accident "changed me" and all of that hogwash. Well it did. To the extent that I value myself and my life (and my car!) a lot more and don't hesitate to say "No" to people I don't like, and to things that I don't want to do. It has made me a lot more aggressive and selfish in going after what I want and dismissing what I don't need and whom I don't want in my circle. I signed up for those music classes I'd really wanted to go for, for eons! gave myself more time at the gym, and recovered from work related and other personal shocks in a heartbeat. Because there's a fact I realised. You live, for yourself, your family and those closest to you. The ones who just come and go? Barely swish a shade of a colour in your life ... It's the ones who stay, who add hues and harmony to your life. But if your base colour should be black, white or red? That's something only you can dictate. :)

Ho! Boy ... 2011.

It's been a magnificently crazy year ... Lost friends, gained some more, lost a lot of confidence, gained some of it back, met a whole load of people, some stayed, some did'nt, and there you have it! A perfect Ezekiel's wheel ... Does seem true ... That the "Truth always seems stranger than fiction" ... Life's been an absolute pleasure of a roller-coaster though there have been times when all I felt like doing, was to get off ... We don't realise this, but if we really look? I mean Open-your-effin-eyes-and-look, sometimes there ARE NO extenuating circumstances to stop us from being who we want to be, or being where, we want to go. It's just us, and the walls we build, out of fear of distancing ourselves from norms of what WE think, society has paved for us.

Cliched? It is. But it also is a fact. How many times have we, as teenage rebels done things just 'cause someone said we would'nt be able to???? Pretty much forms the crux of those crazy bets, mishaps, outta the blue fractures and accidents which drove our folks up the wall, right? :-)

I for one, have decided that astrology, Science maybe, fact maybe, truth maybe, figment of human thought maybe, is not going to dictate what path my life will take. I've had astrologers "predict" that I'd lose weight only after I got married ... I mean, give me a break, will you? How can anyone predict that? :-D Ridiculous!

That's decision 1. Onto decision 2. Met someone awesome. I mean seriously nice and a complete charmer through the folks. Serious enough to have me falling head over heels (again? Not quite like the last time) in a very atypically me, way. I CANNOT imagine myself feeling for someone, anyone, the cynical being I am. :P And ah, well, lesson learnt. Rather, lessons learnt:

1) Listen to well-meaning friends about what's to be done and what's not.

2) Don't be needy. There's no need for daily convis (Hate the last guy I met, for this!), or messages. Yuk! :-)

3) Listen to experienced friends and not friends who have'nt had such experiences before for sensible, rational, or practical advice.

4) We're women, at the end of the day and need not act pricey to get the guys we want (humility helps), but need to remember that if you value someone too much in too short a time, it's turns inversely proportional- the amount they gradually value you.

5) Don't ever sell yourself short. Life is, but your value is'nt.

6) If you find yourself emotionally vulnerable enough to "want" someone so badly-that-you'd-die-if-you-did'nt-get-him types, step back. It hurts, but what the hell, it's better than falling straight in "love", obsessing over it and having your heart shattered where it was'nt even warranted! Thank God I didn't go there. :)

7) I've always counselled friends and people who speak to me, about confidence, trust, understanding and respect being the 4 pillars of any relationship. It's funny. It's almost as if I hadd to run through the motions and the angst of what first timers in relationships or potential relationships face. I ended up breaking the cardinal rules. Anyway, met some more "prospectives" and discovered a dangerous truth lurking behind it all. Meeting and greeting sessions actually do end up having some amount of an effect on who we are, and how we perceive people.

Here's to 2011 and the days that went by. I don't mean to make this an ultra gloomy blog, but at a stage where I'm starting afresh so this is like a prelude to what is to come.

Hopefully greener pastures, or spring flowers in existing ones. Who knows? Apart from someone up there? :-) (P.S: Personally, I'd prefer spring flowers in the existent pasture, but sigh). :-)