Of broken hearts, mended souls and manacled minds ...
It's been a hell of a crazy week. I've seen the worst of heartbreaks happen to a close friend from work, and I don't mean to swear the air Blue, putting the Irish to shame, but I figured out what the hell the word 'Mind fucked' means ... (Thank you Mon, for that term, leveraging it from your collection of prized phrases). It's when two people communicate, one seeing roses and starlight, building glittering marble castles on rainbows, with stardust picket fences, and unicorns as pets (simulating the characteristic Labrador), whereas the other sees pleasurable company, someone to vent and talk to, and a 'distraction' whilst their best of interests and most treasured dreams bloom to life. So, who's to lose, and who's to win here when one's ready to quit and move on, and the other's still dreaming?

This blog is dedicated to this friend mentioned above and of course, for reasons obvious, names will be concealed.

Unfortunately, she loved her castles on rainbowed stairways and the other person did'nt. Hmmmm, an author rightly put it, women are definitely from Venus and men are from Mars. I got a bitter dose of that in the past 3 days and learnt a lesson. Rather re-learnt a bitter lesson from seeing this friend crumble. I mean literally crumble. Never believe a man who does'nt speak his mind. Plus always make sure you;re on the same page and truly synched up. Watch what priorities are all about ... Never be an option to someone and make them your priority. Never works that way. Phew!

Lesson learnt, information assimilated, and moved on! Not easy, because we're human, (and women to top it all!), and tears drop, at the drop of a hat. I could've collected buckets (or like you said, Mon, "She did Ganga-Jamuna-Saraswathi all over me!").

After seeing this happen to a friend, after nearly losing my life in a freak accident, and after getting shockers otherwise, my next steps ... and Mon and D-chechi, this is for you:

1) STOP being negative! The world's my oysters and is filled with wonderful people waiting to meet with, and take on life with.
2) Focus on priorities and decisions keeping my life in mind. We can all afford to be a bit selfish sometimes.
3) Write the GMAT. (I are'nt getting a bloody date! I hate Prometric!). :-D
4) Give up, whole heartedly and peacefully, the idea of losing my singledom ... Atleast for the next year or two. The idea of meeting people (essentially checklists), with hope and a whole lot of optimism, sounds positively deja vu and makes me nauseous. Topmost on my list of things to avoid ...
6) Do NOT bitch about incidents or people- it's over and done with. Or else leads to bitterness and cynicism.
6) Stay calm. Life's a lot more than we make it out to be.
7) QUIT work.
8) Travel more.
9) Courage, strength, light, calm, determination, desire and focus- imbibe!
To Ti, M, Mon, D- chechi, K, Niv and R- one of the hottest mommies I know- Thank you!

Thankful for a wonderful family, supportive and encouraging friends and an amazing brat of a brother for practising normalcy and acting like nothing ever happened ("So what if your car tyre is bent, get another!"), and that the world revolved around the Sun, which rose again brilliantly, calm, serene, melting away traces of yesterday, vaporising tears of last night, and for building us another rainbow stairway. Destination- set. Journey- measured. And it begins ...